“Emotional intelligence is the single most important influencing variable in personal achievement, career success, leadership, and life satisfaction.”
Darwin Nelson & Gary Low, 2011.

In our everyday lives, relationships are a constant presence. Whether it’s with our loved ones, family, friends, or even strangers we encounter, these connections shape us in more ways than we realise. But what if we looked at relationships from a different angle? What if they were opportunities for personal growth and understanding?

What if having a relationship was a hidden way for us to better ourselves, allowing a deeper connection and understanding of the self and others?

What if the ultimate purpose of a relationship was an invitation to develop some inner growth personally and professionally?

What if this was needed to reach out to the next level of yourself? How can one become aware of their emotional state if no outside events trigger inner reactions?

Here’s the thing – we’re all teachers to each other.

How can someone else’s actions trigger negative emotions, yet still be good for you? Well, the thing is, whoever or whatever is triggering your feelings is playing on internal feelings already there. They are perhaps surfacing after a long time buried. Yes, the brain works like a computer that has been programmed from a very young age. Programs like to be run and activated. So, if you have an “old feeling” memory stored in your subconscious and hasn’t been cleared out or healed, the “memory feeling” has become part of you and is looking for a way to be activated.

That’s exactly why yesterday, when this person said or did this, your brain went straight into feeling negative emotions because the feeling is already there and needs to be acknowledged. That’s why you can have 2 people facing the same situation and reacting in 2 different or opposite ways. Well, that’s when EI comes in handy!

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Enter Emotional Intelligence (EI) – the ability to recognise and manage our emotions while understanding others. It’s the foundation of healthy relationships, leading to less stress, better communication, and overall well-being. But developing EI requires something deeper – a genuine connection with our thoughts and feelings, and a conscious effort to break free from automatic responses.

Sadly, many miss the chance to nurture their emotional intelligence, risking the turmoil of unaddressed stress and disconnected relationships. Ignoring our inner selves can have negative effects on both our mental and physical health.

But there’s hope. When we embrace our emotions as guides rather than foes, we open ourselves to a more conscious way of living. By taking a moment to acknowledge our feelings, we gain clarity and perspective, empowering us to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.

Picture a life where stress doesn’t dictate our actions, and empathy guides our interactions. That’s the power of emotional intelligence – it transforms relationships, fostering deeper connections and mutual understanding.

In my world, emotional intelligence isn’t just a skill – it’s essential for happiness and fulfillment. It’s the key to unlocking the true essence of relationship intelligence.

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Yayyy! That’s when the magic happens in terms of connecting and bonding with others, at home or work, when one can manage their stress levels (negative emotions being triggered) so it doesn’t affect their perception and judgment when interacting with someone else. In fact, it increases their compassion and empathy toward others.

In conclusion, emotional intelligence plays a pivotal role in shaping the quality of personal relationships and professional success. By fostering effective communication, relationship management, decision-making, stress management, leadership effectiveness, adaptability, self-awareness, and self-management, EI empowers individuals to thrive in both personal and professional spheres. Therefore, cultivating and mastering emotional intelligence skills is essential for holistic development and fulfilling relationships, both in personal and professional life.

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