What I didn’t expect was how much it would shape me, not just as a coach and emotional health practitioner, but as a person.
Because here’s the truth: real networking isn’t about perfect pitches or polished elevator spiels. It’s about presence. It’s about purpose. And more than anything, it’s about connection.
Learning Through the Lens of Emotional Intelligence
In my work, I support individuals, teams, and leaders to build emotional awareness and healthier relationships. And let me tell you, networking is one of the best spaces to practice those exact skills.
It asks you to speak with clarity, to listen with curiosity, and to show up with authenticity. If you’re someone who’s growing a business, changing careers, or even just building confidence, networking can help stretch you in all the right ways.
You learn to back yourself. You learn to read the room. And you learn to be okay with not always having the perfect thing to say.
Not All Networking Is Created Equal
One of the biggest things I’ve realised is that networking looks and feels different depending on where you are. And not every space will feel like your kind of space, and that’s okay.
- Structured business networking groups are brilliant for refining your message and growing your professional profile.
- Casual, social-style catch-ups like a walk group, community brunch, or wellness circle are often where deeper, more organic connections happen.
- Hybrid-style events give you the best of both worlds. You can be clear about your work and have space to just be yourself.
For someone like me, who works with relational and emotional intelligence, the spaces that lean into real, human connection tend to be where I feel most at home.
The Real Work: Being Seen and Staying Present
Let’s be honest, networking can bring up some stuff. A bit of nerves. A sprinkle of self-doubt. That sneaky voice that says, “Do I belong here?”
I’ve felt all of that. And I’ve coached so many people through those same emotions. The trick isn’t to wait until you’re perfectly confident. It’s to show up anyway. Confidence grows with showing up.
It’s not about being impressive. It’s about being present.
Starting Conversations When You’re Flying Solo
People often ask me, “Claire, how do I walk into a room full of strangers and actually start talking to someone?”
Here’s what I always say: Keep it simple. Look for someone with open body language. Smile. Make eye contact. And say something kind or curious like:
“Hi, I’m Claire. I don’t know many people here. how about you?”
“Is this your first time at one of these events?”
“What drew you to come along today?”
If someone’s standing on their own, chance are they’re just as relieved to have someone say hi.
Forget impressing. Just connect. Be human.
Sometimes the Win Isn’t a Lead, It’s a Moment
There are networking events I’ve walked away from without a single business lead but I’ve never walked away empty-handed. I’ve left with experience, with clarity, with practice. Sometimes even with a new friend.
It sharpens how you talk about what you do. It reveals what resonates. And every conversation helps you land a little more in who you are and what you stand for.
That’s the work I do with clients every day, helping them get clear on their message, their purpose, and how to show up with their heart.
Tips for Networking That Feels Good (and Real)
If you’re wanting to network in a way that aligns with your values, here are a few simple strategies I often share:
- Set an intention before you go. Even if it’s just “I’d like to meet one new person today.”
- Choose events that feel aligned with your energy, not just your industry.
- Keep your intro warm and honest. People respond to stories, not scripts.
- Follow up after with a message that feels personal and genuine.
- Let go of the pressure. One good conversation is a win.
Connection Is the Gift
Over time, networking has become something I genuinely enjoy. I’ve met incredible people; clients, collaborators, friends, and mentors but more importantly, I’ve felt part of something bigger. A community of people doing meaningful work, just like me.
When we bring relational and emotional intelligence into the room, we shift how we network. We’re not just collecting contacts, we’re connecting as people.
Each person has a story. Each interaction is a chance to learn something new. And every handshake or shared coffee could be the beginning of something really beautiful.
One Final Thought
Networking, at its best, is a human practice. It’s where presence beats polish. Where curiosity trumps confidence. And where showing up, just as you are, is always enough.
If you’re on the path to building something meaningful – your business, your voice, your leadership – know that the connections you make along the way will shape you.
And if you ever feel a bit unsure? You’re not alone. But keep showing up. The people you’re meant to meet will find you.
Want support in growing your confidence, connection and clarity? Let’s have a chat. I offer consulting, coaching and mentoring for professionals and workplaces who are ready to lead with emotional intelligence and purpose.
